Confidence has little to do with age or gender or background. I coach both emerging leaders and seasoned leaders who allow their lack of confidence to impact their decisions and actions in the workplace. In my leadership workshops I interact with leaders in all different industries and the issue of confidence always comes up. Even when leaders clearly possess strong capabilities and talent, something inside of them creates doubt.
- They may be afraid to ask for help to complete a project with a tight deadline.
- They may feel undeserving of speaking up about a promotion.
- They can come across wishy-washy about a topic they understand well.
- They are anxious about a presentation that they have done tons of times.
The list can go on and on. You can fill in how a lack of confidence prevented you from asking for something or offering your suggestions. We’ve all been there at different points. We allow ourselves to second guess the actions we critically need to take to propel forward. And it’s all because of our self-doubt or lack of confidence.
Leadership Confidence-It’s Everything!
Confidence Impacts Our Leadership Brand
If we want to be impactful leaders and make a difference in our work worlds it is essential to be confident. Not arrogant. We need to be both self-assured and respectful in sharing our ideas and expertise. Our communication needs to be clear and specific. We willingly share facts and information. We present with excitement and intent.
When leaders are open-minded to different perspectives they exude confidence. Share on XConfidence Builds or Derails Relationships
To grow and form healthy relationships with bosses, co-workers and customers leaders need to be confident in their decisions and actions. Our interactions must show that we are approachable and willing to help. Leaders allow their confidence to shine through when:
- We offer to assist team members with their challenges.
- We listen actively to what our customers are saying to truly understand their needs.
- We openly share our missteps and mistakes as well as the lessons we learned.
- We take an interest in what energizes our bosses and team members.
Confidence Moves Our Careers Forward or Causes Us To Stand Still
If leaders believe in their abilities to perform at their highest levels they will exceed team and customer expectations. Confident leaders recognize there are also areas that they need to grow and will ask for training to improve. They are not fearful of not being an expert in everything and are willing to work hard to add skills to their toolbox. A confident leader reaches out to find mentors or coaches to guide them. They remain flexible to different options and are willing to take on stretch goals in order to move their careers forward. They push themselves to step outside of their comfort zone to build confidence in new areas.
A confident leader is willing to step outside their comfort zone to learn new skills. Share on X
Confidence Spills Out Into Our Personal Lives
Any confident leader knows that whatever they learn in their professional worlds can be integrated into their personal lives as well. Here are some hints I give to leaders I work with about growing both professionally and personally:
- Try out the new strategies on “safe” people in your personal life first.
- Ask for feedback on how you are doing with your new skills from both colleagues and friends.
- Observe how self-doubt impacts both your personal and professional life.
- Cheer yourself on when you feel like a confident leader.
How has confidence impacted your leadership? How have you learned to be a more confident leader?
I’ve seen lack of confidence at every level of leadership, even those at the top. It’s the single thing that keeps people from moving forward…lack of confidence in themselves and their abilities. I always encourage people to have a petri dish of new experiences where they can experiment with new ideas. For many, they’ve been successful for so long they forget what it feels like to fail…that’s what really scares them. Every leader, no matter their position, should be comfortable with failure. Once they are, they’re less afraid to move forward because they know how to land on their feet even if the unexpected shows up.
I love your suggestion of a petri dish of new experiences where leaders can try out new ideas. It really doesn’t matter at what point we are in our careers, we all can have self-doubt. The key is to draw on our past successes and be flexible to try new strategies to grow.
Thanks LaRae!
Years ago, I was asked by an organization to coach one of their employees. They wanted him to step into a leadership role and he didn’t want to leave his current position. After several sessions, it became clear that he had the competence and creativity he needed to succeed in a new role but was missing the confidence. Ultimately, that’s where we focused our energy and he ended up taking the new leadership position. He’s now one of the strongest leaders in that organization. It’s amazing how a lack of confidence can be a gateway to self-sabotage. When confidence is solid, excuses fall away.
Alli
Your story showcases what often happens with emerging leaders. They have been highly successful in their careers due to their outstanding technical skills. They may just want to stay within a comfort zone and not move to the next level where they may or may not have the strongest relationship skills. As you story depicts, that through coaching and determination most leaders can make that leap into a higher level position. And many of us already have the skills; we just allow our self-doubt to create fear.
Thanks Alli!