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Five Truths About Leading Your Way

Although I have been a leadership trainer and consultant for many years, I never wanted to be a leadership blogger. It’s not that I don’t enjoy writing, but rather I was uncertain about adding a blog to my weekly commitments. I feared that if I was unable to keep my word to my readers that I would not be credible. Also, I wondered whether I could offer topics that appealed to leaders of all backgrounds and interests. But as I delved into leadership blogging something very fascinating began to happen. I realized that when I shared my stories of leading, other leaders reached out to share theirs with me. I didn’t have to model my blog after anyone else’s, but just write about what I saw through my workshops and presentations. The truth was that I just had to lead my way.

Here are five truths about leading your way:

1. SHOWCASE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF

There is no sense in trying to look or act like someone else- just be you. I was so concerned that I may be different from other bloggers but soon realized that all I needed to do was share my unique leadership stories. As long as I maintained my authenticity, my leadership blogs resonated with others. Look at your authentic self and use it as a compass to lead.

2. ALLOW YOUR STRENGTHS TO SHINE

We all have gifts and talents but may have a hard time honing in on them. Yet those strengths are what make us unique leaders. I knew that if I wrote from my heart about what I loved doing I would hit a cord with other leaders. Here are some questions to help you discover your unique strengths:

  • What do others ask me to help them with?
  • Where have I gotten the most positive feedback?
  • What excites me the most about leading?

3. DON’T JUDGE YOURSELF HARSHLY

Whatever you finally decide to pursue in your leadership path, try not to be too critical. Just because someone says something negative or doesn’t respond in the way you had hoped, don’t beat yourself up. A wise leader once shared with me that he was amazed at why some of his blogs were so popular while others were not. He didn’t always agree with his audience but learned not to take the “lack of response” personally. That always stuck with me.

4. LOOK FOR WAYS TO ENGAGE WITH OTHER LEADERS

A huge part of leading your way is finding commonality with other leaders. In your workplace or with your clients, do you work hard to discover ways to connect? Leading your way means understanding what makes you tick and what makes those around us tick. It is being both self-aware of what energizes us and recognizing how other leaders are energized too.

  • Ask other leaders about their challenges and then share yours
  • Offer to help when someone is struggling
  • Be a strategic listener
  • Lead with your heart

5. EMPOWER YOUR CREATIVE JUICES TO FLOW

The final truth about leading your way is allowing your creativity and energy to flow. Decide what direction you want to follow and run down that road. Stay with your choice whether it be tackling different responsibilities or pursuing a new job or career. Lead with gusto and don’t look back. You deserve to lead your way!

What are your truths in leading your way? What has worked for you?

(Credit image: Flickr CC-Richard Foster)

 

 

Technical Skills Got You Here But They Won’t Get You There

Many of us are familiar with this career scenario. We work hard to learn and master every technical part of our job in order to be recommended for the next promotion. We receive praise for the value we added to a project where we were able to utilize every bit of technical knowledge we were taught. We consider ourselves a SME (subject matter expert) in our field and hope this will help move us along our career path. Up until now, we have been rewarded for our expertise and knowledge. But then we get tripped up with this feedback:

“ Although you have strong marketing skills, it seems like you are having a difficult time

What Changes When Leaders Meet Face-To-Face?

For many years I have been partnering with an organization to provide leadership training for many different industries. As with any long-term collaboration, we sometimes disagree or view the customer challenges from different perspectives. If we end up being on opposite pages of thinking, we talk it through to come up with a solution that we both could live with. But recently things started to change. There was a clean sweep of leadership in the organization and before I realized what had happened I started dealing with an entire new group of “names.” I describe the new leaders as “names” because that is all I had to go on. I had no faces to connect… Continue reading | 8 Comments

Four Ways To Lead MLK (Martin Luther King Jr.) Style

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Each year we honor the great leader, Martin Luther King Jr. for his courage and contributions to humanity. He had a vision about equality and care for one another that still rings true today. Leaders can learn so much by looking at the empowering actions and communication of MLK as they strive to model their unique leadership after him.

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

Four ways to lead MLK style:

1. IDENTIFY YOUR VISION AND FIGHT FOR IT

Five Critical Leadership Skills To Grow

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We begin our careers loading up on every technical skill we can. We want to master every part of our job and be comfortable carrying out each task with agility. That’s our goal as we strive to be the best leader we can and add value to our teams. Yet at some point we notice that although we may be capable of successfully completing any project, we are facing some different kind of challenges in persuading others.

This realization for some leaders that something has changed is expressed so often in many of my leadership workshops. An energizing discussion often emerges.

“Why won’t my team members listen to what I have to say?”… Continue reading | 8 Comments