Category Archives: Compassion

Six Secrets To A Culture of Connectivity

I’ve been working with several teams this past six months that are having a tough time coming together in a unified way. It’s not that team members are purposefully going in different directions but rather there is a missing strand of connectivity. There is also an absence of camaraderie and respect for different views.

We all see this disconnect at times in our jobs. Since our workplaces are filled with so many daily interactions with different people, there is the potential to overlook the importance of meaningful connections. We see this when we work alongside colleagues to create important deliverables. We feel it when we participate in meetings to make decisions for the best direction we should take. A lack of connectivity can take place when we coach others to reach their potential as well as when we are coached to grow our own careers. A disconnect can even emerge when we make presentations to explain new concepts and trends.

Why are we sometimes missing the mark in forming connections with team members?

 To create teams that can perform at their highest levels we need to build connected relationships. We need to see how much we depend on one another to get our jobs done well.

Here are six secrets to creating a culture of connectivity:

1. Commit to building relationships with every interaction.

Every time we connect with others it is a moment of truth. That means we need to cultivate deeper relationships when we work with others. Make sure we are clear in our communication and share complete information so everyone can work with the same data. If someone has a different opinion, listen respectfully. Validate input from team members. Help each person see their value in contributing.

2. Be a trustworthy team member.

To lead in a culture of connectivity there needs to be a high level of trust amongst team members.

  • Don’t talk negatively behind people’s backs
  • Own up to your mistakes
  • Never betray a confidence shared with you
  • Showcase the strengths of others by asking them for their expertise

3. Become curious about people on your team.

When we become interested in what makes our team members tick we begin to build a deeper connection with them. In a recent program team members shared some information about their childhood that helped others understand them better. Ask questions and people will open up about who they really are.

4. Don’t be afraid of conflict.

If we really want to create a culture of connectivity we need to welcome ways to deal with healthy conflict. Healthy conflict ultimately leads to greater solutions if it is handled well.

  • Listen strategically to understand completely during team meetings
  • Don’t interrupt until your team member is finished explaining their ideas
  • Ask questions to clarify points
  • Never bully a team member to compromise
  • Try to pull different opinions together to create a larger solution

5. Follow-through on what you say you will do.

To depend on one another, team members must be reliable. That means completing your piece of the deliverable with quality in a timely manner. It also means offering your suggestions to enhance the outcome of a project if your expertise is needed. Be there for your team members when they are counting on you.

6. Lead with compassion.

Allow your heart and mind to be in sync when decisions are made and actions are taken. With one team I worked with some of the members were feeling isolated so it was essential for the others to draw them in and reach out for their input. Having concern for one another is how we connect.

What are your secrets to creating a culture of connectivity?

 Please let me know if I can help you or your team build a culture of connectivity and trust.

Five Roads To Authentic Leadership

It can sometimes be difficult assessing whether a leader is being totally real with us. The words coming out of their mouth might sound like they know what they are talking about and their tone seems authoritative. Yet there is something about them that doesn’t add up. We are feeling disconnected from a conversation and we don’t know why. I worked with a woman who was confusing to read. On one hand she was a successful business developer and often asked me to help her with projects. And in another way she would challenge my every decision and action. It was impossible to know what she was really thinking.

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Five Heart Based Leadership Tactics

Partnering with many highly technical leaders throughout the years, I have come to understand the direct communication style. They get to the point quickly, using as few words as possible, with a purposeful tone. They exude an air of authority. This past week was no different. I presented a leadership program to a group of senior leaders who were experts in their technical abilities and very firm in the way they shared their insights. They commanded a stage-type presence with a “been there, done that” attitude. So walking into a room filled with these confident seasoned leaders seemed a bit daunting. Well sort of.

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Seven Choices To Compassionate Leadership

It’s easy to give up on team members or colleagues when they don’t meet our expectations. When co-workers don’t pull through in the way we thought they would or should, we often become angry or feel let down. We even may become defensive and be ready to go on the attack.

Have you faced any of these frustrating situations in your workplaces or collaborations?

  • Missing information for a project
  • Deadlines that are ignored or miscalculated
  • Being omitted from an important email
  • Not being part of a team decision
  • Overlooked to be part of a Happy Hour after work

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Five Tactics To Becoming An Empowered Leader

Leadership is not about a position or title. Leadership is not about taking over a team and dictating what needs to be accomplished. Leadership is not about lecturing others to make sure our ideas are selected for a solution. Leadership is not about being the loudest or smartest in the room.

So what is leadership all about?

Leadership is all about becoming empowered and helping others become empowered. It is about creating cultures of empowerment within organizations and teams. When we feel empowered we can lead with confidence and compassion. We can impact our worlds of work in meaningful and purposeful ways.

Here are five tactics to becoming an empowered leader: